Bo: Waiting for the Right Moment

By Mordy Blau As Bnei Yisrael prepare to leave Mitzrayim, the Torah shifts our attention to something deeper – the legacy we’ll pass on to our children. This calls for a meaningful and nuanced approach to educating the next generation. We would therefore assume that the concept of the four sons we discuss at the Seder would be found in this week’s Parsha. But surprisingly, the one we’re most eager to hear from, the Chacham, stays silent. He doesn’t speak until Parshat Va-Et’chanan, and even then, only conditionally: “If your child asks you tomorrow” (Devarim 6:20). Why the wait? Why does the Chacham take so long to speak?

Rabbi Dr. Aaron Levine explains that the timing simply isn’t right. Someone driven by wickedness can’t help but speak out. When Bnei Yisrael are in the midst of prophecy and the Divine Presence, the Rasha can’t resist mocking – “What is this service to you?” (Shemot 12:26). The Tam, being naturally curious, has to ask, “What is this?” (Shemot 13:14). And those who don’t know how to ask, the She’eino Yode’a Lish’ol, need someone to guide them, as the Torah tells us: “You shall initiate.” But the Chacham? He holds back. Why? Because wisdom is more than just intelligence – it’s tied to character.

In Parshat Bo, as the geula begins, the Chacham already knows the truth. He sees Hashem’s hand, but he doesn’t speak up. Instead, he takes on the role of a meshiv – someone who responds when needed. When the Rasha challenges, the Chacham steps in, defending the integrity of the group and pushing back against the negativity.

It’s only later, in Parashat Va-Et’chanan, that the Chacham truly steps into his role. The Torah describes a new reality: “When Hashem, your God, brings you to the Land that He swore to your forefathers” (Devarim 6:10). In this era of prosperity and new challenges, the Chacham speaks up. It’s a time when Bnei Yisrael are warned not to forget Hashem amidst their newfound wealth and moral tests. This period might even symbolize moments of persecution or doubt, like times when people cry out, “Where is your God now?” (Tehillim 115:2).

In this setting, the Chacham emerges as a unifying force. He doesn’t just ask questions for the sake of curiosity; he asks purposeful, thoughtful questions: “What are the testimonies, the decrees, and the ordinances that Hashem, your God, commanded you?” (Devarim 6:20). His wisdom shines through as he demonstrates the reality of Divine Providence, not by asking for miracles, but by grounding his questions in history and guiding us forward.

The Chacham’s ability to address everyone’s concerns and connect with people on every level makes him a unique leader. He’s the one who can bring the Jewish people together, expanding the family bond and reminding us of our shared purpose. It’s this kind of wisdom that ensures the continuity and strength of our people.